In the September special report on “Using Brain Hacks for Healing”, one of the items I mentioned was mirror neurons. Since the report focused on healing, I limited the discussion to using them in a positive manner.
These same mirror neurons become destructive when they are exploited. The very systems that are designed for helping you develop empathy and connect with others can end up haunting you.
Behavior researchers have long known about the power of modeling. Although the researchers found out how they work, it was pornographers who found ways of monetizing the power of modeling.
Those same mirror neurons are used against females in order to groom them for nefarious purposes. It’s not by accident that pornographers intentionally use average looking women in their productions.
The average looking women serve as role models for those women consuming the porn. They want you to be able to fantasize about doing what the ‘actress’ is doing. Seeing someone who could be you doing it makes it more likely that you’ll try it yourself.
Although I’ve mentioned the danger of normalizing affairs, this takes affairs to a new level. Your own mirror neurons are activated in order to get you to fantasize about having affairs since they are ‘like you’.
In other words, with pornographers marketing more to women these days, their products are designed to mentally groom you for infidelity. This is way beyond ‘normalizing’. This amounts to intentionally planting infidelity seeds in your brain.
Your own mirror neurons are used against you. Once the fantasies are planted, they’re not easily removed.
The fantasies keep replaying over and over once they are activated. At that point, they are planted in your mind forming mental weeds that need to be removed.
It’s also not accidental that some of the same methods used by seducers are used by pornographers in getting women like yourself lured into wild relationships. This is also why consuming pornography while recovering from an affair is not good for you or your spouse.
It’s also not accidental that pornography is often used in the swinger community, along with generous use of alcohol and drugs in keeping people locked into that way of life.
You can break away from the prison constructed by your fantasies. There are things you can do that change your thinking along with reducing the risk of an affair.
At Restored Lifestyle, you have access to anonymous forums where you can discuss your struggles along with access to programs designed for helping you through recovery.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
