When I hear a common theme repeatedly from those who are struggling with affair recovery it gets my attention. It’s one thing when something occurs occasionally, yet when you hear it more than once, it alerts me that it’s a topic needing attention.
Although I haven’t addressed the link between vocations and affairs very often, there are some professions at higher risk than others. The profession I continue hearing about that needs attention is that of physicians.
Doctors are something we all need. Although you need them, they’re human and have their own Achilles’ heels of vulnerabilities.
There is a high risk of affairs with doctors. I hear this from a wide population from betrayed spouses to office staff who resent being hit on and the emotional office drama that affairs bring.
The whole world that revolves around doctors create an environment dangerous to your marriage. They are trained in being the center of attention, which creates problems.
The high risk of affairs with doctors raises many questions. There are several factors behind this phenomena.
The four factors that make physicians vulnerable include:
- The access to money
- The high social status and power position of being a doctor
- The long and irregular hours that go with being a doctor
- The isolated world of the doctor
- The self centered thinking
Just one of these factors is enough to make the profession a high risk for affairs, yet all four is too much for many physicians. Typically, I address high risk situations in terms of Affair Relapse, yet with physicians, the risk factors make both affairs and affair relapse concerning.
The risk factors make affairs easy for them. It can occur without them putting much effort into having an affair.
Many cheaters have to plot, plan and create opportunities. With doctors, the opportunities present themselves. I’m not saying every doctor has affairs. I am saying the affair danger is high for physicians.
If you are married to a physician, you need to be aware of these dangers and risks. It means that your marriage needs special attention in order to avoid these dangers.
As a member of the Restored Lifestyle site you have access to the video on Preventing Affair Relapse where the issue of high risk situations and ways of dealing with them are addressed. If not, you need to educate yourself on the high risk situations and have plans in place for dealing with them.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
