One of the statements made by cheaters working their way back is that others react to them as if an affair is a contagious disease. Affairs are not spread by a physical bacteria. Although there is not a bacteriological contagion in terms of germs or viruses that are spread, that does not mean that they are not contagious. There are exceptions to this general statement. If the cheater contracted a contagious disease as a result of the affair, there is a physical contagion. The real dangers are the attitudinal and spiritual components. When cheaters have good social skills, their attitude can be contagious. When they are skilled at putting people at ease, and saying smooth words, their attitude creeps into other relationships. The cheater may have many admirable qualities. There is often a confusing of admiring their qualities and skills and admiring their mindset. The mindset of cheating is not something that you want to indulge yourself with. Becoming infected with that mindset is itself a seduction. You have been seduced into their way of thinking, into their way of looking at things. When you start down that road of being seduced, you may not realize it until it is too late. Like a car rolling down hill, the momentum of the seduction over rides the brakes. The momentum of the seduction takes over.
There is also the spiritual component. Seducers often have a different energy about them. They have a different vibe or feel. Whether you call it curiosity, excitement, or animal magnetism, they seem to have a seductive aire about them. That charged energy is often contagious. It is especially contagious when you are weak, or in the company of other cheaters who have the same energy. Being around several cheaters can be overwhelming. You know from living with them what they are like when they are full of this energy. You knew in your gut that they were somehow different, but may not have noticed completely what it was. When they are operating on that energy, it is easier for them to find other cheaters, along with being easier to lie, deceive and seduce than they would typically be.
So the next time you sense something about cheaters, you may actually be onto something.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
