One of the twisted ironies of affairs is that at a time when you shouldn’t be making decisions and choices, you are put in a position to do so. This is a tough situation. You want order and structure, you also need to ‘pull back’ and emotionally heal. So in the affair version of “should I fish or cut bait dilemma”, you have the choice of should you heal or make changes? You need some of both, yet it is a quandary just choosing between the one or the other.
During emotional upheavals, your mind is probably not thinking rationally. Your emotions probably influence every choice you make. That is where the danger is. When you are in pain, it is tempting to make choices that will reduce the pain, rather than do what is right or even knowing what is right. Even when you want to make the right choice or even the best choice, you have the challenge of considering ‘right by who’ or ‘who is this the best choice for?’.
In navigating through such challenges, you way want to sort out the many choices into “Important” and “urgent”. Typically the important choices are the ones that need your attention. Although many choices are urgent, demanding your immediate attention, they are typically not the ones that matter as much in the long run. Devote your attention and energies to the important rather than get caught up in the urgent.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
