During the process of getting our home back in order I made many discoveries. Anytime you remove everything from your home and then put them back, you discover things.
You find items you lost and also see things in a new light. One surprising discovery I made was the sheer number of clocks in our home. Some rooms have a minimum of four clocks in them.
The sheer number of clocks forced me to face the importance we place on time. It also woke me up to the number of clocks involved whenever time change occurs. It’s no wonder why I feel like the first day is filled with changing clocks.
In modern society time and when things happen are important. Time is used as a way of tracking our lives.
Time is also important when dealing with affairs. One common question involves “When did the affair happen?”
Somehow knowing when helps you begin making sense of the shocking news. Although I don’t know the answer to when the affair you’re dealing with happened. I can share with you what researchers have found regarding when affairs happen.
Affairs are most likely to occur at three times.
They are times of loss (health, position change), life changes (pregnancy, your child entering school, aging and teens launching from your home) and life transitions (moves, promotions and financial/legal issues).
If your spouse has encountered one of these situations, chances are that is likely when the affair began. The cheater used the affair as their way of dealing with that situation.
There was something about the situation that disturbed their routine. Even if it was a good change, it didn’t bring good results.
The really odd thing is that those changes are not limited to the cheater. It could be that those changes happened for you and the cheater reacted with the affair.
Making the connection between change and the affair is unsettling. It forces you to see things in a new way. Your mind may even fight changing how you see things.
When you need extra help and support, consider joining the support community at Restored Lifestyle. There you can share, read and learn what you need in recovering from the affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff
