If you’ve been on social media sites for any amount of time, you’ve likely encountered trolls. At times they entertain me and others irritate me.
Troll responses are typically canned and biased. Anytime I’ve been called names or been cursed out, it’s been done by a troll. They aren’t open to considering any kind of honest debate. They do not want a reasonable discussion, only a platform to proclaim their views.
They want you to accept their viewpoint or you’re wrong/ a hater/ expletive. I’ve even encountered them on my website devoted to helping couples like you recover from infidelity.
One of the latest stated: “Human Beings are not monogamic fundamentally …To my experience swapping, where both partners agree to explore sexual pleasures outside of their own, is very exciting and fulfilling. It’s important that both should be into it equally and have strong and open communication between all involved. The fun of it is in experiencing this aspect of life together and it has to be as a team and not solo.”
The comment amounts to a commercial for non-monogamy. It emphasizes pleasure and excitement. Like many troll-like comments, there’s no acknowledgment of the pain, heavy drug use, STDs, secret-keeping, and dysfunctional family relations that surround such a lifestyle.
They view traditional marriage as stifling and limiting rather than it being a special relationship between one-man and one-woman without outsiders that provides security and stability.
Like a broken record, the trolls repeat the mantra ‘human beings are non-monogamic’. They spout it as if it is scientifically proven, when in reality such findings are based on conjecture, theories, and speculation from either animal or anthropological observations. There are even courses no offered on how to be non-monogamic along with those for talking your spouse into being non-monogamous.
If trolls were honest, they would present the whole picture of what happens with affairs rather than harping on the parts they’re promoting.
It’s important to recognize that trolls are not limited to online interactions. They can also manifest in real life, often in the form of bullies or individuals who constantly try to provoke others for their own amusement. In both cases, the underlying factor is a lack of empathy and a desire to cause harm or stir up controversy.
I have had them post under other names or even pose as God in commenting on my posts. Any defense of traditional marriage to them is selfish and spreading hate.
You know first-hand what affairs bring into your life and family. Someone had an excitement that had a huge price tag. That price tag is seldom mentioned by trolls.
Are you more secure and emotionally healthy as a result of the affair? Is the communication in your marriage better now than it’s ever been? Do you feel safe when your spouse is late coming home from work?
If you answered in the negative to any of these questions, you’re experiencing some of the effects of an affair. You would benefit from healing. I deal with many of these and other concerns in the ebook, “Why Wasn’t I Enough?” Order your copy today.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
