Affairs bring many questions. Some are questions surrounding the causes of the affair, self-doubt, forgiveness and details about the affair itself. The questions cover a wide range of topics and concern different time frames.
One tough and painful question that comes up is “Will I ever quit hating my ex and his AP?” What makes it a tough question is that it’s not clear what is being asked.
On one hand, they want to know if there will come a time they quit hating. It’s also hinted that they want to know when that time will arrive.
On the other hand, they’re asking whether its’ possible that they’ll quit hating.
If you’ve asked this question, rest assured that it’s possible to quit hating. Stopping hate requires making a conscious choice to do so. You choose whether or not to keep the hate going.
Although you can do something about the hate, the hurt is another matter. Hate and hurt are two different things.
Brain researchers have even found that different parts of your brain are involved with hate as opposed to say anger. Although both have the common element of hurt, how you choose to handle it makes a difference.
A better question would be do you want to quit hating your ex? or how does hating your ex help you?
Hating focused on intentional destruction of the hated person or object. Affairs are destructive enough without desiring MORE destruction.
There’s a place for hate. It’s essential that you hate the affair, NOT those who cheated, yet many people don’t know how to do that.
A good place to start making changes for those of you asking this question, my video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks” addresses ways of dealing with the hurt.
There are ways to stop the hurt behind the hatred. It’s not easy dealing with the kind of pain you’re facing, but it’s also not impossible.
The affair may be long over while the pain continues lingering. There are things you can do about that pain.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
