Whenever my wife has a phone call, I mute or turn down the volume of the music playing. When there’s background noise it distracts you from your focus and makes it hard to hear the other person.
In my case, making a few hand gestures and pushing a few buttons remedies the situation. Although I can easily turn down the volume of the music, there are situations where this isn’t possible.
After discovering your spouse cheating, the trauma of that discovery is all you can hear. It takes you from your focus, fills your head with distractions, and drowns out anything else going on.
The trauma screams at you. In the case of trauma, the mute button isn’t easily discovered.
The trauma hijacks your emotions, and your thoughts and steals your joy. It keeps you up at night and even manages removing the taste from meals.
It gets to the point where you just react without thinking. The trauma takes over.
Those are the times when you need to take a step back and put your phone down. Take some deep breaths, meditate, or just sit in silence and process what’s going on. Give yourself time to regroup and refocus your thoughts.
These moments can be tough but don’t let it keep you down.
At those times, you wish someone would just turn it down or shut it off. Although you don’t want to listen to the trauma, it won’t let you turn it down or off.
You know that you’ve been through tough things before, but this one is getting to you. It’s hitting you worse this time than other challenges.
It becomes a nightmare. Friends and family want to know what’s going on with you. You can tell them the facts, but they still don’t get the impact of the trauma and how it’s always there shouting at you. They only see the effects of the trauma.
At times like this, find a way to muffle the volume of the trauma in your head. Find whatever activities and hobbies bring you joy and peace. Create a plan for yourself day-by-day, moment-by-moment that helps you regain control of your emotions and thoughts.
They think you’re angry or depressed. They don’t get that you’re worn out from wrestling with the trauma.
Although it feels hopeless, there is hope. With the trauma screaming at you, its’ hard considering that you can make it past this. Overcoming the trauma is possible.
When you understand what’s going on and that there are things you can do that will move you past the trauma, it gives you hope. There are things you can do.
In the video, “Overcoming Affair Trauma“, I share with you how trauma works, works on you and what you can do about it. You don’t have to stay stuck. You don’t have to stay in a state of hopelessness.
You can move past the nightmare that’s been following you around. Click and download your copy today.
You can do something more than just imagine the possibility of moving past it. You can actually start putting the trauma behind you.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
