There are some questions about affairs that are unpleasant. Although part of me doesn’t enjoy the unpleasant aspect, I know it’s necessary.
One of those unpleasant questions is “Does infidelity lead to suicide?” Suicide is one of those topics that makes my stomach churn.
I also know that those kinds of questions need straightforward answers. You need clear answers to questions, even the unpleasant ones.
Although I can’t say that infidelity causes suicide, I can say there’s definitely a connection between infidelity and suicidal ideation. In fact, from my survey of couples experiencing infidelity, the number is roughly about 33%, although I wonder if it’s actually higher.
The link between infidelity and suicide is complex, and there are many factors to consider. It’s not just about being emotionally hurt by your partner’s infidelity–it can also be related to the shame, guilt, and betrayal that comes with it.
The one experiencing the ideation can be either the cheater or the betrayed. This isn’t an issue limited to one or the other. Threats of suicide are also a ploy used by some lovers in keeping the cheater hooked into the affair.
When the lover threatens suicide, it’s a desperate form of manipulation.
When suicidal thinking is with the betrayed or cheater, there’s a toxic mixture of guilt, blame, pain, and the desire to run away from it all. I also know from the survey that you can make it past those dark thoughts.
The place to start removing those dark thoughts is with forgiveness. Keep in mind that it’s not about letting the cheater off the hook, the kind of forgiveness I’m talking about concerns you knowing effective ways of releasing painful emotions and thoughts.
The key to overcoming any kind of emotional challenge is to trust in yourself and your own resilience. That doesn’t mean it won’t be tough–it likely will be–but when you go through the process, you’ll be stronger for it.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
