Hank Williams Junior sings songs about rowdy friends and trashy women. I think he mislabeled things. He should have sung about trashy friends and rowdy women. Had he sung such a song, it would have alerted the world to the dangers of trashy friends.
One of the hurdles that trips of some of you during affair recovery is dealing with trashy friends. The trashy friends I’m referring to is when your spouse is surrounding themselves with trashy friends. These are people who don’t care about your well-being or the marriage. They encourage bad behavior and make it hard to get out of the crisis mode that you may be in.
It’s important to understand what kind of friends you should avoid during affair recovery. If someone is talking negatively about your spouse, making morally questionable decisions,
Although it sounds terrible to refer to some people as trashy, the truth is they exist. I’m not talking in terms of their housekeeping, but instead, their moral values.
Like it or not, trashy friends are corrupting. Your spouse may claim they’re good people and downplay their trashy qualities. When they care more about the opinions and approval of their friends than you, their values have been corrupted.
Trashy friends amount to a terrorist threat in your own backyard. They may be neighbors, work associates or programs on television.
After someone’s been exposed to enough images of affairs or talk of affairs, it starts wearing someone down. Your spouse may be strong, but when exposed to bad influences, they can be corrupted.
Removing the danger is something you should have done before the affair and must do something about after the affair. This is a vital part of affair relapse prevention.
Trashy friends fire up the parts of your spouse’s brain involved with the affair. When it happens enough time in your head, it starts working on their thinking.
Who your spouse spends their time with influences them, whether they admit it or not. It’s not that the friend caused the cheating. They made the choice to cheat.
When your spouse is teetering in their choices, trashy friends are cheerleaders for cheating. They encourage selfishness and giving in to their desires. Removing their influence reduces the risk of affair relapse dramatically.
Therefore, it’s important to identify these people and stop them from influencing your spouse. Allowing them to remain in the picture does nothing but undermine your efforts to heal and rebuild trust.
So if you want to protect your marriage and make sure it lasts, take a stand against trashy friends.
In the video, “Overcoming Affair Relapse”, I share other interventions and strategies designed for helping reduce the danger of another affair happening.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
