Category: Recovery and Self-Care
Lawyer Tricks and Affairs
One of the things I hate is ‘lawyer tricks’. Being a therapist, I am sensitive to being manipulated and helping others change. One reason I hate lawyer tricks is
Dealing with a Pathological Liar
A few moments ago I finished reading a rant from a betrayed wife about the audacity of pathological liars. Her rant started me thinking about dealing with pathological liars.
Limerence and Affairs
Besides the weather, another thing that changes is fashion. Like the weather, fashions change. Trends and popular colors come and go. If you watch fashions, you’ve seen some of
Trappers and Stalkers
It was only in 2016 that I was able to enjoy the change of seasons with a settled sense of peace. For the first time in many years, I
How to get the stains out of your marriage
When my favorite articles of clothing get stained it puts me in a dilemma. I know my wife would tell me to ‘get rid of it.’ There’s something inside
Valentine’s Day After the Affair
There are times when addressing affair-related topics challenges me. One place where those challenges occur is what to write on ‘special days’. This is due to special days being filled
The SECOND betrayal
One of the issues that strikes a nerve within me is child abuse, especially sexual abuse. There’s something about that issue that activates a strong reaction of disgust deep
“Is improved communication enough?”
I hate computer problems, water heater problems during the winter, and automobile problems. Gadgets and tools are easier to mess up than they are to fix. Although I expect
Counting the cost of reconciliation
After writing to you about break-ups, it sounded logical to address reconciliation today. Although reconciliation is mentioned by many ‘affair recovery specialists’, it’s important to clarify what reconciliation is,
Trouble with Forgiving
Have trouble moving on after forgiving someone? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. It’s actually a really common problem that I’ve noticed. What bothers me the most is that it’s
