How to Rebuild Your Marriage After Narcissistic Behaviors

Have you ever considered what it would be like for you and your spouse to be 'completely' in love? Although you want to have a love like that, have you considered what it would look like? Think about what your marriage would be like if each of you cared about each other, considered each other, and shared. The two of you could be united together in some serious ways.

When you have that kind of relationship, each of you practices responsible freedoms. You don't mind giving your spouse freedom, since you know they can handle it. There's no doubt in your heart that they consider the impact of what they're doing on you along with how you would feel about it.

Those are nice ideas, yet in real life, your spouse has shown that they can't handle the freedoms they've been given. They may not even be able to share for more than a few moments at a time.

They may even want their way and disregard you in the process. In such situations, narcissistic behaviors have run love out of your marriage. So, how can you get that complete love back?

First, you must accept that narcissistic behaviors have taken over.

Their selfish way of looking at things contributed to the affair and the damage that came with it. Had they considered how it would hurt you, they wouldn't have done it. When selfish thinking has taken over your marriage, it needs help. Things may eventually calm down, but that doesn't mean that they're healthy or make your marriage better.

There is also a big difference between narcissistic behaviors and narcissism. Although you may have diagnosed your spouse's behavior as narcissism, there's more to it than some website or magazine checklist indicates. Their selfishness may not be true narcissism.

Don't mistake getting along for having a good marriage or loving each other. Those things happen more as a result of a healthy marriage.

In my video "How Can I Trust You Again?", I share ways of improving the trust in your marriage. Trust is one of those foundational things that contribute to a healthy marriage.

The two of you can learn how to have responsible freedom again, although it requires some changes and effort. In the video, you'll be guided in starting the needed changes.

Your marriage can get better.

Keeping It Real,

Jeff