In many ways, revenge is an extended anger. Healthy anger is intense and short lived. It is usually triggered by threats or frustrations. These same two elements, threat and frustration play a key role in understanding revenge. If you are seeking revenge, one of the ways needs to overcome it is to understand what triggered the revenge. Is the revenge in response to a threat or a frustration? Being able to discern which type of trigger started the revenge is important in defusing the revenge. In most cases, the revenge is powered by thoughts we have about the situation rather than the situation itself. When you realize that it is not the person, or the paramour that is giving you the most grief and recognize it is your own thoughts and mind, then you can begin taking steps to changing how you think about the situation and defuse the revenge. It will take practice and time to do this, bu tit does work
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
