Cell phones have become the number one way of catching infidelity in Britain. I suspect that is the case in the United States as well, although I have not seen the latest numbers on that issue. I was reminded of this when I received an inquiry call from a man who had concerns about his wife’s text messaging with another man. Sending messages to a person of the opposite sex is not a bad thing. It is a part of business. When there is secrecy, defensiveness, texting at odd hours or sending of pornographic/suggestive material , something is up. When boundaries are blurred in these areas, the texting is no longer innocent. These tell tale signs indicate that it is not a “friendship” or “business association”. Some of the tell tale signs include:
1. Texting at odd hours (late at night or early morning)
2. Secrecy regarding who sends the text and what it says
3. When your spouse keeps their phone password protected
4. When your spouse is secretive regarding the phone bill and how many text messages were sent. They may also be secretive about who the text messages were from.
5. When the texting goes on for an extended period of time.
6. Texting in a strange or coded manner.
7. When pornographic or suggestive material is sent or received.
8. When the caller/texter refuses to tell you who they are.
Be on the lookout for these or other tell tale signs indicating that something is not right. Early intervention can mean that you keep your marriage intact.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
