Although viagra (or cialis, etc) don’t directly contribute to affairs, they are a factor to consider. The largest sex organ in the human body is the brain. The brain decides what excites and what does not.
What this means for couples is that the problem may not be that your spouse no longer does anything for you, it may be that the two of you may not be totally engaged with each other.
These days it is easier going into ‘robot’ mode than it is to fully engage with one’s spouse. Being engaged is not just a matter of being stimulated in a sexual way, it included being aware of who they are, what is important to them, how they think and how they feel.
When the level of intimacy with many couples being slightly better than that of room mates, it is no wonder why many resort to Viagra rather than improve their relationship.
It’s one thing if there are organic reasons for the medication, it’s another when medication is used for avoiding the work associated with intimacy. When your spouse doesn’t turn you on, the answer is NOT finding someone else.
Running from the relationship only escapes the situation, it doesn’t ‘fix’ anything.
Before you go running for that ‘greener pasture’ across the street or at the local bar, you may need instead to go to your spouse, sit down and talk.
Medications like viagra and cialis make cheating more convenient. In the past, guilt reactions and fear would inhibit performance in an affair.
With Viagra and its associated components, the chemicals can over ride the emotional reactions. Before giving in, consider whether you need Viagra or need to talk.
If you are looking for a community where you can share your concerns about an impaired cheater, consider the support community at Restored Lifestyle.
There you’ll find others going through similar struggles along with resources and videos to help you through your recovery journey.
Best Regards,
Jeff
