Stopping an extra-marital relationship takes more than making resolutions about it. Stopping the affair means ending the physical relationship and changing the emotional relationship. Once the affair is ended, it is not easy to leave that part of one’s life behind. It often takes a conscious effort to transform or change the feelings that you once had for that one’s lover. The needs they once met are now unmet and what they satisfied are now unsatisfied. The adjustment requires acknowledging the pain and then transforming it.
When the affair is ended on the physical level, but not severed emotionally or spiritually, it is only a matter of time before another affair (either of the body or heart) to occur. Working through the change process takes more than will power.
Choosing to end the affair is a good first step, but that is not the only step involved in stopping the pattern of affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
