The question “Do you want to be healed?” is an important one for you to consider. Do you really want your marriage to improve? Do you really want your spouse back? Realize that once they are back, it does not mean that the problems are resolved. You still have work to do on your marriage.
During the crisis of an affair you are faced with the reality of this question. You find out how far you are willing to go to get them back and get help. Although you may say that you are willing to do ‘anything’, if you are like most couples, that is not the case. You may profess your commitment, but how far will it go?
Will you call a counselor today and start getting help?
Will you purchase that program on recovering from an affair today? (It’s a five session program that takes you through the process)
Will you sign up for that self-help infidelity support group today?
There is a big difference between promising the moon and delivering. If you are like most spouses, you are willing to do things until it takes you out of your comfort zone. You may very well need to leave your comfort zone and do something different. It could be that your comfort zone is more important to you than your marriage. Your comfort zone may have contributed to the affair in the first place.
This takes me back to the first question, “Do you want to be healed?” If you do, if you really do, then take action. Quit talking and do something today.
What action will you take today to heal your marriage?
Best Regards,
