Cheating often starts with compromised morals and values. If you and your spouse engage in “What if….” games, you may be weakening your marriage. Looking at what situations where you might cheat or where cheating is acceptable often opens the door to problems. Even making off hand remarks like “I wouldn’t kick them our of bed for eating crackers” or “I wouldn’t mind sleeping with him/her” are not innocent remarks. Such comments often plant seeds in a persons mind. Seeds which operate in the background of their thinking looking for when it is acceptable to cheat and under what circumstances it would be approved of.
Professional behavioral manipulators (aka Psychological warfare units) know that breaking people down morally opens the door to finding ways of compromising them and catching them in compromising situations. Situational ethics and their ‘What if’ variants weaken resistance to temptations. Professional corrupters know how to exploit sex as a way of manipulating their targets. They know they have to soften up their target first and making mental compromises starts the process to moral compromise followed by behavioral compromise.
What this means is that you need to “avoid all appearances of evil” even in the form of ‘what if’ games and its cousin ‘dress up’ games in order to reduce the likelihood of affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
