Although the action Nicholas Cage joked about ‘marriage police’ with his movie line, “Whoa, whoa. Way heh, marriage police pull over”, the reality is that there is no ‘marriage police’. When your spouse cheats, there is no special division of law enforcement that comes to the rescue. In nations that do prosecute adultery, their enforcement is selective to say the least. Some adulterers are punished, while others are let go. In those nations that have a ‘marriage police’, the enforcement of the law often depends on who is being accused, their religious status and their gender. Even when the ‘marriage police’ get involved it is after the fact, and only to dish out punishment. Those nations that have ‘marriage police’ do not provide any safeguards or protection of spouses.
It is the inability to prevent cheating from happening that is troublesome. Even in churches that often condemn adultery in a very public manner, there is little done to protect people or prevent affairs. It is always easier to condemn the cheater or the spouse of the cheater than it is to prevent or support those who are victims of the matter.
Even if there was a marriage/affair police designed to protect and serve you and your marriage, when it comes to dealing with your marriage, or protecting your own personal property as well, the matter is best handled by yourself. No one can protect your marriage better than you can. No outside human third party can protect your marriage like you can. Sure, you may find some that will ‘punish’ or dish out vengeance, but that is after the affair has happened. Dealing out punishment may make you feel better, but it often does little to help improve the marriage. Condemning the cheater does not repair your marriage or show you what you need to work on in your marriage.
The fantasy of marriage police is just that, a fantasy. When some form of marriage police exists, they are not police, but rather sadistic mobs that like to hurt others. When your marriage is in danger, you need to take action, rather than waiting helplessly for the mythical ‘marriage/affair police’ to take charge. They are not going to come, no matter how many calls you made.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
