With psychology and psychiatry turning into big business, many promises were made regarding all the benefits they’ll bring into your life. With promises of bringing more freedom from the restraints of old morals and religious teachings, they promise greater happiness and fulfilled lives.
Has this happened in the case of your marriage? Has all the pop psychology improved your marriage?
If you’re like most couples, as the ‘old morals’ and religious teachings that taught self-discipline and self-control have been cast aside there’s been consequences. Among the consequences, many spouses have given into their urges in chasing after their neighbor, secretary, boss, local hunk or easy score all in the name of ‘making them happy’.
The therapeutic society has been a failure. The promises of greater happiness and being from the restraints of morals has many takers.
Those takers chased after what they thought would make them happy, yet leave wrecked lives and emotional devastation behind them. It may have made them happy, but it ruined the lives of their children, spouse and community.
Before you seek help from one of these ‘enlightened’ professionals, find out where they stand on marriage. Their view of marriage, and affairs will influence the counsel and guidance they give you.
If they’re a “whatever makes you happy” kind of therapist, you’ll not likely find them supportive of you confronting the cheater or working through the problems in your marriage. Instead, they’ll be promoting an agenda of hedonism under the pretense of being therapeutic.
For interventions to be ‘therapeutic’, they need to be what’s in the best interest of your marriage and family. This requires them doing the ‘right’ thing and confront the ‘wrong’ things going on.
If what is ‘right’ in the eyes of your therapist is what makes you happy, or what makes the cheater happy, then there will be problems as you address the affair. The postmodern, therapeutic society has shown that it’s a failure.
The divorce rate hasn’t gone down. People are not happier. The removal of moral influences in the lives of people has created more serious problems.
The therapeutic community doesn’t want to admit to it’s failures. Just look at the lives of the prominent therapists in terms of affairs and broken marriages.
When I considered the professors teaching me in graduate school, my eyes were opened. One killed herself. The school considered her ethical, since she transferred all her clients before doing herself in. Another killed his step-father with a claw hammer.
One conducted nude encounter weekends and wondered why his marriage was falling apart. Another was stuck in the midst of a nasty divorce while I was taking classes. Another made a point of attempting seduction of incoming same sex students.
That sampling told me that they didn’t have satisfactory or marriage affirming answers. It also told me that they were not improving their lives. Sure, I had other professors, yet the seriousness of the problems and number of them were a wake up call to me.
Illness is no longer based on right and wrong, but is being redefined as what either fits or does not fit into society as a whole. SOCIETY is not responsible for your marriage, you and your spouse are.
SOCIETY shouldn’t be determining the rules and expectations of marriage to you and your spouse. Your values and morals should be shaping your marriage and society, not SOCIETY shaping you through the movies, music, pop psychology and pop culture.
There are times you need help, like with an affair. Real problems need real help. You need help that considers what’s best for your marriage and family rather than what makes one person happy.
In the download, “Affair Recovery Workshop“, you’ll find clear direction. You’ll find help that considers what’s best for your marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
