Some of the recent news items I’ve read concerning affairs have illustrated the danger of Affair Revenge. Although the ‘official’ law enforcement reports categorize such events as ‘domestic violence’, the reality is that revenge for an affair is a big deal.
This means that when you search through crime statistics for affairs or affair violence, you won’t find much. By categorizing these incidents as domestic violence, officials avoid the stigma that affairs bring.
By calling it domestic violence, they focus on the violent acts rather than admitting the cause.
The crime statistics people find the easiest and simplest explanation for these episodes. Looking for the connection with affairs means that they would have to take stands on moral issues.
Since not everyone views affairs as bad, yet everyone views domestic violence as bad, it’s easier categorizing affair revenge in that category.
When you have incidents involving passion and poor self control, it’s never confined to one area of your life. When you lose self-control in one area, the risk of losing control in other areas is high.
Keep in mind that these people are thinking with their passions rather than with logic and reasoning. They already gave into their passions and abandoned self-control with the affair.
The tendency of giving into losing self-control spreads across the different parts of your life.
This means that giving into affair passions brings the risk of giving into anger passions or revenge passions as well.
Another danger of affair revenge is that it’s not limited to one part of the affair triangle.Each of you no matter whether Lovers, the Betrayed and the cheater are vulnerable to seeking revenge. It may even be the spouse of the lover or extended family members.
That risk of revenge is not limited to the time of the affair. The desire for revenge can lay smoldering for years. The one seeking revenge waits for what they consider the right moment and circumstances to launch their plan.
They may even look for an excuse to launch. This means even what you consider mild confrontations could set into motion paybacks for an affair.
People seek revenge for what they consider ‘wrongs’, no matter how big or small the events were.
The risk of affair revenge also means that when an affair happens, it needs addressing and resolution in a timely manner. Delays only make the revenge worse.
Not talking about the affair also adds tension to an emotional issues already at work. The issues need to be talked about and resolved. You need a plan for dealing with the affair.
This is where the Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. It guides you in dealing with many of the aspects of the affair and your marriage relationship. Including it in your plan early helps reduce the risks of affair revenge.
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You want to put the affair behind you. You also need to make sure the issues are detoxified before doing so.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
