When you do a TED talk, it immediately gives you expert and celebrity status. At that point anytime you speak, you’re identified as having given a TED talk. Whether your talk was a success or a flop doesn’t matter. You are seen as a guru because…you gave a TED talk.
One of those TED talk celebrities is Esther Perel. After her TED talks on affairs and relationships, her book sales took off and she is an ‘expert’ in the eyes of the media. She has some points worth considering I want to share with you.
There are some views on relationships that I totally agree with her on. One is “The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.” This is solid.
Another view is that “It takes two people to create a pattern by only one to change it.” When it comes to relationships and couples, one person has a tremendous impact.
Even though you feel powerless or impotent, the reality is that you can change your relationships. You can change what you do, how you do it and the direction it goes. One person can change the relationship and the direction it’s going.
You can change things even though you feel overwhelmed by them. Emotions have a way of distorting facts, including facts about your marriage.
Your emotions can have you believing things that aren’t true. Your own emotions can blind you to things that are happening, be they good or bad.
My own correlation to what Esther said is that “all it takes for bad patterns to continue in your marriage is to ignore doing anything about them.”
I realize that in order to change patterns, you first have to be aware of them. You have to be awake enough to notice what they are. When you see them, you can begin changing them.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
