When you are experiencing the tug of temptation pulling in the direction of infidelity, what is it really telling you? Keep in mind that cheating is a choice that you are seeing as a solution to a problem. Could that tug, be a reminder that you need to do something to correct or address the real problem rather than find another form of running away? Could the tug be a reminder that you need to draw closer to your spouse, and re-connect with them?
Temptations come when we are vulnerable. That tug of temptation is a reminder that you have left yourself vulnerable. You need to take action to reduce that risk. You may also have placed yourself in a position where the risk is overwhelming. Rather than impulsively giving into the tug and urges, ask “What are they really telling me?”. If you use them a signal for self-examination rather than as an excuse to act out, you will make some startling revelations.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
