No one naturally wishes thinking that their parents are ‘evil’. As much as you don’t want to view them as evil, there are some parents that do fit into that category. When you have a parent that pressures you into an affair, you are dealing with an evil parent.
They may be nice in some ways, remembering your birthday and buying gifts on the holidays, yet what they’re pressuring you into is evil. When your parent pressures you into an affair, they’ve crossed the line from meddling to ‘evil’.
You may be thinking, “Jeff, you are being awfully harsh there”. Calling a parent evil is harsh. What they are pressuring you into is harsh.
It’s also evil, no matter how good it looks or sounds. It has the potential of destroying your marriage, ruining any stability in your life, and disrupting the family for generations.
It is not just about some sex. An affair destroys trust and breaks bonds that are part of the strength of families. The bonds between parents, between parent and child, along with those connecting to extended family.
When these family bonds are broken, the normal checks and balances that make sure things run smooth no longer work the way they are supposed to.
Parents are a major influence in your life. When they use that power of influence to steer you into an evil act, they are promoting evil.
It puts you in an unnatural place. There is part of you that wants to follow their direction, yet when their direction is destructive or downright wrong, it puts you in an unnatural bind that no child should ever have to experience.
The evil parent may try justifying what they are doing, by saying that they do not like your spouse or that they found someone better for you. They may even try to justify their evil, by claiming that the lover they want you to be with is ‘in your best interest’.
Their whole purpose may lie in breaking up your marriage. They don’t like it and want it stopped.
They may even be motivated by love or sympathy, but whatever their motivation, what they are asking you to do is evil. Mixing evil acts with good motives is a powerful, but lethal combination.
Bear in mind that even rat poison is 98% good oats. Mixing a little good with the evil may appease their conscience, and add the appearance of legitimacy to the affair, but…bottom line is that what they are encouraging you to do is evil.
When you are faced with evil parents, it’s imperative that you break the unhealthy patterns that are at work. A large percentage of affairs follow family patterns.
I address the family patterns, ways of identifying them and breaking them in the “Affair Recovery Workshop“. This downloadable program provides you with the tools you need for strengthening your marriage and changing any unhealthy patterns that are promoting affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeff
