Do you ever have those days when you just need a little encouragement? You know, those moments when “I’m praying for you” or “I’m thinking about you” just doesn’t cut it. It’s not that you’re trying to be a downer, but you understand that it can be tough for others to be around someone in need of support.
What really gets to you is when people deliver those well-meaning phrases with a syrupy sweet, almost patronizing tone. It’s one thing when they genuinely mean it, but it’s another when it feels insincere.
You get it, though. Those seeking encouragement can sometimes drain the energy out of others. It’s exhausting to be around them. As a counselor, I saw this all the time with my clients who were feeling down and needy.
But let me tell you, what meant the world to me was when someone simply sat with me. I didn’t need entertainment or jokes, just someone who wasn’t afraid to face the pain and weariness with me. It made a huge difference.
I didn’t need them to tell me what to do or think. I just needed someone to listen. Someone who could hear my story and understand my pain.
I know that in moments of discouragement, like when you’re dealing with the aftermath of an affair, people often resort to those cliché phrases. I can’t blame them for not knowing what to say in those tough moments.
And some of them might even be scared that the “affair germs” will rub off on them and harm their own relationships. But the truth is, there’s no protection against the dangers of affairs.
Dealing with the affair on a daily basis can be incredibly discouraging. There are times when you just want a break from everything life keeps throwing at you.
But you know what really helps during those times? When someone takes a genuine interest in you and what you’re going through. Just knowing that you’re not alone in your struggle can provide a great deal of encouragement.
Of course, there are some burdens you have to carry alone. But having someone to share your journey with makes it more bearable.
It’s at times like this the Affair Recovery Workshop can help. In it you’ll find guidance, answers and direction in handling what you are going through with the affair. It is based on experiences from those who have gone through the pain.
Keeping it real,
Jeff
