Being made a fool of is embarrassing. It’s even worse when the person making a fool of you is your own spouse and their affair.
Affairs are bad enough. When the affair goes on long enough for you to look foolish it makes the pain even worse.
Although others may try comforting you with assurances about how your spouse made the bad choices, it does little in reducing the agony of being the last to know about the affair.
It’s not by accident that what’s known as the ‘sucker punch’ has many of similar sensations. Being made a fool of typically feels like an emotional sucker punch delivered by your spouse. In some cultures, this phenomenon is considered a matter of bringing shame onto yourself.
It’s heartbreaking to experience the hurt of being made a fool. Many couples have changed their outlook on life after going through such an experience and how they prioritize trust in their relationships. The only way to recover from such betrayal is to take time, mend your emotions, and come out stronger than ever before.
The very person who is supposed to have your back. They promised to love and cherish you and then ended up betraying you by doing what they did. What made it worse was that it took you a while to discover it.
Betrayal is always worsened when you’re made a fool of on top of it. It removes your dignity and self-respect. Had you known about it earlier you could have at least dealt with things behind closed doors.
When the affair becomes a public spectacle, it feels like your own failures are advertised for the world to see. That kind of spectacle turns the affair situation into a traumatic event.
The spectacle element creates a moment frozen in time where you are the butt of other’s jokes. Being made a fool stuns you to the point where you are totally unable to work on the affair. Dealing with such a traumatic event requires support, understanding, and patience.
It’s important to remember that you’re not alone. There are many couples who have gone through similar situations and managed to come out on the other side together.
If this sounds like you and your situation, then the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma” is something that you need in moving past what happened. With the tools presented, you’ll discover ways of getting unstuck and unfrozen.
You can move past this with a little help. You don’t have to stay stunned any longer.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
