The class song for my high school class was “Do you know where you’re going to?” performed by Diana Ross. There was something about her voice that made the song very believable and stir your emotions. Perhaps her having gone through marital difficulties in her own life were coming through.
For me her song was one of those songs I classify as a ‘seeker’ tune. Such songs convey the search for answers or who a person is. There are other tunes that I’ve also included in this genre. The ‘(Theme from) The Valley of the Dolls” (also sung by Diana Ross) and “The Seeker” by Pete Townshend of the Who.
“The Seeker” conveys the idea of looking for something everywhere. Although it came out in 1971, its’ been covered by many other groups ever since its’ release. Its’ as if the song keeps its message in the public consciousness.
Perhaps my affinity for it comes from attending a Who concert years ago. Perhaps it comes from my looking for answers. Whatever reason, the song resonates with me as well.
“The Seeker” is featured in the film American Beauty, the Simpsons, and several commercials. It’s been covered by musical groups like Rush, the Black Crowes, along with Guns N’ Roses’.
When a song like “The Seeker” continues being recycled, and replayed there’s a reason for it. Songs stick around because they hit on something people relate to.
I suspect that contemporary artists have continued using the seeker theme in their songs as well, although few come to mind as clearly as the ones I recall. In today’s culture, the seeker theme in music is now dominated by contemporary worship artists.
Seeker songs have a special meaning for those recovering from affairs. You are searching for many things. At times, you seek answers to questions, at other times the search is about finding yourself again. You want a life that is blessed.
You want your sense of happiness and confidence back. Like the widow who searched her house for the lost coin, you search diligently for what’s missing in your life. Dealing with the affair and recovering from it took something from you.
Although you can’t step into the same stream twice and you can’t time travel back to the marriage that you once had, there are things you can do. You can regain confidence. You can be hopeful about life again. You can enjoy life again.
The main character in Pete Townshend’s “Seeker” never found what he was looking for. You don’t have to be like his seeker. Your journey can have a better ending. Your search does not have to be endless.
The Affair Recovery Workshop provides direction and tools helping you regain lost momentum and intimacy.
Best Regards,
Jeff
