I recently returned from a conference in Las Vegas. The irony is that the conference focused on dealing with trauma and it took place in a city that recently experienced massive trauma.
There was a sense of being stunned over the recent shooting there. People I encountered still couldn’t believe that it happened in their city. Two weeks after the shooting, the crime scene tape remains up, reminding them that it really did happen.
The shooting incident overwhelmed everyone. First responders, emergency rooms, Uber drivers who took victims to safety (without charging) and countless others. One incident overpowered many of the city’s systems within a few minutes.
Some of the responders involved spoke to us. It wasn’t just a story in the news, real people were traumatized and lives were changed that night.
I was especially moved on visiting the impromptu memorial set up at the fabulous Las Vegas welcome sign. Seeing memorials to each of those who died helped me see the scale of what happened along with realizing each of them was a person with hopes, dreams and loved ones.
I mention this episode since traumas overwhelm your coping abilities and resources. Much like the resources in Las Vegas were overwhelmed, an affair overwhelms coping resources as well.
Your ability to think clearly, your ability to look at things rationally, and your emotions are overwhelmed by the trauma. Your whole ability to feel good and bounce back are wiped out in a brief moment.
Being wiped out by trauma doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. A big event makes a big impact. Surely an affair is one of those big events.
This is where the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma” comes in. It helps you move from that point of being overwhelmed to where you can start bouncing back.
If you are facing a trauma, you will benefit from the video, which guides you through that part of your recovery.
It could be that you view asking for help as being weak. I assure you, with big events, like your spouse cheating on you, asking for help is a good thing. The mindset of doing it on your own only serves to keep the trauma around longer.
Best Regards,
Jeff
