Over the next few days, many of my articles, which were previously on other sites will be posted here at SurviveYourPartnersAffair. It is my hope that you will enjoy and benefit from them. I encourage you to submit your comments on the various topics as well. They cover a wide variety of topics related to affairs including sexual addiction, spying, Parent Alienation, lying, and other important issues related to affairs. Prior to having to make these changes, I had started a series of articles on how cheaters reason and the motives behind those confronting the cheater. Since cheating is an issue that did not begin in isolation, dealing with it involves changes for both the cheater and those hurt by the cheater. The articles address the topic from the many angles and perspectives involved.
Sharing your comments will help others who are struggling through similar issues. I believe your comments will end up helping each other in the international community that is developing around SurviveYourPartnersAffair. I also welcome your comments on issues or topics that you want me to address, elaborate on or to take a fresh look at.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
3 Responses
Thanks for this daily post as it inspires me a lot! My husband of 36yrs has been in an affair for the past 6yrs. moving back and forth between the two of us, not knowing what he wants. the past 7mnths he openly goes to her after dinner, spends many hours with her, also on weekends. I could not stand this any longer and have filed for divorce. got him to move out and stay with her. divorce will be next week.
I will not stop reading these posts, as I have to get a clear notion as to “why, what, how and what now!”
we don’t see each other, I know nothing of him and I’m staying on in our house, him paying alimony and now the future awaits me at the age of 56, not easy! our three children are grown up and 2 live far away.
I am trying my best to stay positive and pray God knows what now, as I don’t.
May you keep inspiring people on this lonely road that I wish I did not have to travel….but here I am!
Eugienne,
Thank you for sharing about your situation. It is encouraging to hear that you are inspired. It sounds like you have gained some strength and began setting some clear boundaries. Your husband’s affair shows a lack of respect for you and for marriage in general.
Dear Eugienne,
Thank you for posting a ‘nut-shell’ summary of your courage in the face of filth!!
Your sharing makes that ‘lonely road’ we travel much less lonely!!
It is a much-needed boost for me, as I am about to finally make the break from my narcisstic mate.
Though it would be nice (sort of) to keep my home, I proboaly will not, as he carried on some of his affair here & ‘she’ actually lived here for a time. Do not need those ‘in-your-face’ reminders!
So glad you are keeping your house, though. After all, you are not the one who did wrong and destroyed the marriage. He did, so he should go! Yeah for you!
As you said, much of what DrJeff writes is useful even to those who do separate. Heck, l feel the info is vital reading for everyone, as all of us are affected in some way or other by affairs! As is often said, ‘(accurate) knowledge is power’; actually, it is knowledge implemented that gives power. The scriptures along with DrJeff’s writings has given many of us a new power we never knew we had!
So, continue on, my friend, and may the Holy Scriptures and DrJeff”s writing continue to be a part of your healing and your new life!!
Love to all…….