“How’s your weight?” Some of you may rather talk about the affair than your weight. Some of you may not want to see or acknowledge the connection between the affair and your weight.
No matter how you deny it or run from it, the reality is that there is a connection. Even mentioning weight may have some of you ill at ease.
When you start talking about weight, things get personal and things get real very fast. It’s easier seeing weight issues as due to other factors than the affair.
In some ways there are other factors, yet the affair is bringing everything to center stage. The affair, your weight, and a host of other concerns.
Dan Stone summed it up quite well. He stated “When you stuff feelings of loss-it comes out sideways.”
Stuffing your feelings about the affair and yourself are a sign that you’re not dealing well with the affair. The affair forces you to face unpleasant concerns. It doesn’t wait until you’re ready. Instead the affair yells at you “Deal with it!”
With the affair, you lost a great deal. Losing those things isn’t something you want to face. It’s easier eating than dealing with it.
Having a full stomach keeps you from thinking about things. It’s a convenient distraction. It’s a temporary soothing, albeit an unhealthy one.
The affair may not have caused the problem. It may be pushing further into the problem.
When you start addressing the affair and related issues, you’ll find your self-discipline improving. When you start working through the pain, you won’t be using food for your self-soothing.
In addressing unpleasant issues associated with affairs, like weight, you’ll also benefit from a support community like the one at Restored Lifestyle. There you can share with others and learn from others.
When you start helping others, you often end up helping yourself as well. So how’s your weight and when are you going to do something about it?
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
