Back in April, the writer and professor, Paul Maxwell made headlines by announcing his leaving of Christianity. His announcement shocked and stunned many since he was a theology professor and pastor. His book on seeking God was a bestseller.
When well-known writers or professors make radical changes, it makes news in some circles. In Paul’s case, there were many wondering what happened, including me.
One of the issues that jumped out at me was whether or not there was trauma in his life. Sure enough, trauma was some major traumas in his life.
He spent many years wrestling with trauma and its effects. Trauma brings changes. Those changes can bring massive turnarounds, like Paul’s situation. Those changes can be for better or worse. It’s when wrestling with trauma choices are made.
It’s during times of trauma you re-evaluate your values, your priorities and your beliefs. You consider short-term fixes and long-term answers. Trauma shakes you to your core being. You find out what you truly believe and what you truly find comfort in during those times.
Trauma isn’t fair and doesn’t impact everyone the same. It touches the good and the bad. It doesn’t come at a convenient time.
For that reason, how you handle your trauma makes a huge difference. Paul Maxwell isn’t the first person who lost their religion as part of his dance with trauma.
Trauma, including the trauma of an affair forces you to consider what you ‘truly’ believe about marriage and yourself. You also discover lessons about faith and what brings you comfort.
It’s at those times you find out what your marriage means to you. You discover whether your committed to your marriage or just playing house.
If when going through your affair trauma you decide you want to work through it, you’re in the right place. If you want a quick fix, this is not where you need to be.
In the video, “Overcoming Affair Trauma”, I share methods of moving past the trauma in your life. Rather than let it fester or worsen, there are ways of working through it.
Your reaction to trauma doesn’t have to keep you going in circles. You can’t change what happened to you, but you can change how you deal with it.
Take the step toward moving past the trauma rather than allowing it to overpower and consume you.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
