Have you threatened to make yourself sick over the cheater’s actions? In threatening such action, you may be programming your mind and body to actually carry out your instructions.
Your body follows the instructions you give it. When you give the marching orders to get sick, it will eventually do so.
Cheating is dangerous to your health. Not just in terms of communicable diseases, but also in terms of stress related issues.
High blood pressure, sleep problems and ulcers are only the beginning. Holding onto bitterness is a sure way to ruin your health in terms of bone related concerns. The emotional issues you hold onto impact your health. The longer you hold onto them, the greater the impact.
It would make more sense allowing the cheater to hurt, rather than you hurt yourself. When you quit holding onto the bitterness and worry, then they’ll begin to experience pain and discomfort, as well they should. This is what I call ‘the pain see-saw’.
I don’t like people becoming ill for preventable issues, as in affairs. In a way your pain protects the cheater from ever experiencing pain or hitting rock bottom.
If you wonder if they’ll ever wake up and hurt, the answer to your question may be in your own mirror.
You don’t have to continue hurting. You can do something about it. You don’t have to carry the pains of bitterness and unforgiveness.
You can let go of those pains, and I encourage you to do so. The price tag for hurting yourself is more expensive than you can pay.
I’ve seen those who carried that burden to their grave unnecessarily. Besides ruining your health, it damages the relationships between you and others. Its painful getting close to such people. You need support and encouragement, not burdens and isolation.
If you are stuck and struggle with not hurting, the video, “Overcoming Affair Trauma” guides you in moving past that. When you’re ready to move on, you can know how to do it.
Best Regards,
Jeff
