With the new year approaching, it’s a great time for making plans and changes. One of the traditions that Peggy and I have, is getting away after Christmas.
On our get a way we take stock of the year and plan for the new one. We’ve found that it’s easier planning things when we’re away from home. At home, there’s always distractions and responsibilities that interrupt.
Although we seldom accomplish all our goals and plans, more are achieved than not achieved. The planning gives us some direction and coordination.
You may not be able to get away, but you can plan and set goals. There’s something about a new year and the new beginnings that gives energy in making such changes.
Think about what kind of marriage you want in 2018. In order to attain it, what changes are needed? Consider what those changes are along with the steps needed in reaching them.
A plan doesn’t magically make things happen. What it does is give you a target to aim for. Without direction, you wander aimlessly.
One of the dangers of such wandering is settling for relationship rather than your marriage being the best it could be. Just settling puts you at risk for resentments.
Settling also puts you at risk for premature closure of important issues. You can end up closing issues before things are settled.
Resentments arise when you start settling rather than having direction and plans.
This is a great time for the “Affair Recovery Workshop” rather than guessing at what you want different, you can have a clear idea. In the sections on relationship building, you’ll gain awareness of what marriages need for developing healthy intimacy.
Having a clear idea of what’s needed in your marriage is a good way of reducing the danger of settling.
Best Regards,
Jeff
