In continuing with the list of ways to avoid emotional blackmail, this is the second installment.
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3. Have an escape plan. Make sure you have a way out of the situation or agreement if things get bad. A plan is not only how to leave but also when to leave. Many people make the mistake of not leaving a bad situation until they are in too deep. This also includes relationships, whether you were the resolute spouse or the infidel. In the case of the infidel, you need to know when and how to leave the affair. In the case of the resolute spouse you need to know how far you will go in working to save the marriage. Waiting until it is too late can be a disaster. Rather than panic with “What shall I do?” , have your escape plan in mind before you are forced to have to leave.
4. Do not say “Yes” based on emotions or peer pressure. Saying “Yes” under those circumstances is a manipulation. Saying yes, when you really want to say no is also a hallmark of sexual addiction. Many times those afflicted with it can not find it within themselves to say “No”. There are also spouses who are sexual for their partner and not for themselves, which produces problems. Sexual addicts are often easy targets for emotional blackmail as are their partners.
More ways to avoid emotional blackmail are on their way. Check back daily to see the latest.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
