Affairs are a serious matter. The latest high powered official to come under fire is the Mayor of Detroit. It seems that Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick was having an affair with his Chief of Staff, Christine Beatty.
The affair was tragic on many levels. The mayor was the youngest in Detroit history.
He was an up and coming star in his community, yet the affair brought him down.
Those who found evidence in the text messages blew the whistle on the affair. One person was fired for investigating the mayor’s affair.
Their relationship has already cost the city 9 Million dollars in fines. That is a 9 with six zeroes after it. To put it in context, you could purchase 450 Jeep Renegade vehicles for that amount of money.
On top of the fines, there were many criminal charges involved as well. Before the affair situation was all over, there were charges of racketeering, bribery, extortion and perjury.
When cheaters are caught, they face the question of “How far am I willing to go in hiding this?” In this case, the answer included many unsavory actions.
These kinds of actions raise the question, “Is it worth it?“. The destruction has already touched many lives and it makes one wonder how many more it will touch before it is over.
Along the same lines, the British newspaper, the Telegraph is doing a series on affairs and exploring what is causing the recent rise in the number of them. Some of the pieces emphasize the ‘benefits’ of affairs.
The irony is that if they have so many benefits, then why do they put the disclaimer that names have been changed in the story?
If affairs are totally good and full of benefits, then they would not be ashamed to say so.
A closer look at the story also indicates that there’s often sex without intimacy and “doing it for the glory of England”. The concept of infidelity is that you’re not loyal or dedicated to your spouse.
If you’re not emotionally available for your spouse, how will you be emotionally available for anyone else?
These are examples of how one has to examine the big picture. Such stories, like affairs themselves may look good at first, and then the ugly reality of what is really going on comes out.
In the Detroit situation, it is 9 million dollars worth of ugly. Before falling for the temptation of affairs, remember the ugly will always come out.
In the “Affair Recovery Workshop” you can gain the tools needed for recovering from your spouse’s affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff
