Have you set your spouse up for an affair? There are some spouses that have set up their spouses for an affair. Through actions that are either conscious or unconscious, they set the stage for an affair to occur. I don’t condone such affairs. I can understand how they happen. When a spouse ignores their partner and it either too busy or too tired to engage them, problems are on the way. The situation worsens when they don’t address the needs, but start taking steps to ‘normalize’ the ignoring. The spouse can be further pushed in that direction when the home and their appearance are not kept up either. Such actions send the message, “You are not important” , “You are not needed” and “You are not respected”. When there are enough of these messages sent, the spouse begins to consider the question, “Why am I coming home?”. It is at this point that they are very vulnerable. When another person comes up and gives them attention, time and respect, they are easy prey. Under such conditions, resistance to an affair melts. Should they have done it? By all means no. Was the situation avoidable, “Yes!”.
Although not all the temptations a person encounters can be removed, many of the issues that lead up to an affair can be. The old adage that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure is very apt in such situations.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
