As I have been working on an exciting new e-book focusing on the effects of affairs on children, new realizations have become much clearer. Among these new realizations is that, “everyone loses with an affair”. Although Americans often look at the world in terms of winners and losers, with affairs, no one can be considered the winner. The family looses the closeness it had. The trust is destroyed and replaced with lies. Someone may have had some great sex, but the price tag makes it a loosing proposition. The seducer looses by being a major factor in a family breaking up. Compassion and humanity are lost in that everyone is reduced to property that is fought over. Everyone touched by an affair is de-humanized. The end result of an affair is the release of animal passions which is accomapnied by less than human behaviors.
When an act leaves you loosing your heart, soul and humanity, what has been gained? Affairs have to focus their attention on the here and now, because if those involved considered the long term aspects, it would not be worth it. Although the depravity of mankind wants to look at affairs in terms of ‘winning’ something or someone. It is true that someone is taken hostage, but I would not call being a hostage winning by any stretch of the imagination.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
