In the movie, Gone With the Wind, Rhett Butler makes the statement, “There is more money to be made in the breaking apart of a civilization than in the building of one.”Although he was making reference to his smuggling, the statement has applications for marriages as well. There are people who stand to make money with the dissolution of a marriage. Although they may advertise themselves as your benefactor, they make more money the longer the issues drag on and conflicts continue.
Private Investigators, lawyers and courts others often stand to gain financially with the break-up of a marriage and family. These professions know that their bread and butter is based on such break-ups. Some lawyers and private investigators may attempt to ‘save’ your marriage, or appear to have your self-interest in mind with their suggestions. Before you swallow what they tell you, there are some things to consider. The main thing is to consider “cui bono?” or who benefits. Who is actually going to benefit from your heartache? Who is actually considering your best interest both short and long term as well as the impact on your children and family? Many times, the actions suggested focus on short term benefits, rather than long term impact.
The lawyers may help you legally end the marriage, but that does little to end the hurt. You may obtain fast results, but that does not mean that the issues are resolved or that they are over.
With this in mind, it behooves couples dealing with affairs to consider this.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
