Watching suffering is a gut-wrenching experience for me. I was reminded of this on recently seeing a family member endure pain associated with a back surgery.
When I’m in one of those situations, my whole digestive system reacts. The experience sends a shudder through my whole nervous system.
I recall in the aftermath of a hurricane, I felt overwhelmed by the experience. Seeing all the suffering in various forms around me hit me hard.
Although watching suffering is unpleasant, going through it is even worse. On top of the suffering, there is a sense of being alone as you struggle through the whole experience.
I also know that suffering, however unpleasant the experience is a part of life. Not only is life not fair, it also includes times of suffering.
When faced with an affair situation, you will experience some suffering. There is no way around it. The only way through suffering is in a head on manner. Denying it or putting it off only makes the situation worse.
That suffering can turn into pain associated with healing or bitterness. Whether it goes in the direction of healing or toward bitterness is based on your choices in dealing with it.
Opting for holding onto the pain contributes to bitterness. Once bitterness sets in, your attitude sours and its only a matter of time before you experience diseases and illnesses.
Holding onto bitterness changes you. It changes your attitude along with your constitution. It puts you at risk for diseases and illnesses. It also leaves you vulnerable in terms of emotional problems.
Bitterness is a form of suffering that’s preventable. You don’t have to let things go that far. The longer you stay in bitterness, the greater the consequences you’ll experience and the more severe the suffering will be.
You may have given yourself reasons for staying in your bitterness. They may make sense to you and give you the illusion of control. Bitterness doesn’t give you any kind of beneficial control over anything, including the cheater or the lover.
Bitterness points your mental focus toward an emotional ledger filled with losses, disappointments and failures. The more you stare at that ledger, the more the bitterness grows.
If you’re tired of staying in your bitterness or want to reduce your suffering, you can make a choice in a positive direction. You can choose to forgive and move past what happened.
In my video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the roadblocks“, I guide you in learning HOW to forgive, HOW to begin letting go of your pain and HOW to make the forgiveness last.
I encourage you to order your copy today. You don’t have to spend another day in bitter suffering, unless you want to.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
