There are some choices I’ve made in my life that were definitely bad ones. Although I’ve made some of those choices, I make it a point of learning from them rather than repeating them.
One of the common features shared by my bad choices was that “it sounded good at the time.” Those kinds of choices are short-sighted. I looked only at my immediate needs and desires rather than the long term consequences they bring with them.
Fortunately, my good choices have outnumbered the bad choices. I’ve also learned some valuable lessons surrounding those bad choices.
When it comes to affairs, many choices are made by the cheater and the betrayed. Some of them are good and some not so much.
One reader commented “I regret going clubbing without my husband.” Going clubbing without your spouse puts you in a high-risk environment for affairs.
You may know the club well, yet more times than not, clubs are social meat markets. They’re hunting grounds for seducers.
You’re going for a good time, while the seducers are looking for victims.
When you combine the seductive club environment with alcohol or drugs, the high risk environment becomes astronomically high in terms of risk of an affair. Throw dancing in and the odds are against you.
Many seductions began with dancing, alcohol or both. The whole environment fights against saying “No!”
Going to the club may have sounded good at the time. You assumed that you could handle yourself and any advances that came your way.
You may not have considered the negative potential that comes with clubbing. Clubbing without your spouse is always dangerous. Whether or not something happened, the visuals of it are damaging.
If you made one of those regretful or bad choices, the time for taking action is now. In the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery“, I address what you need to do in order to start turning things around.
You can’t totally undo what happened, but there are things you can do to repair your marriage. The longer you put off taking action, the more the pain metastasizes and worsens.
Click and download the video today so that you and your spouse start recovering from what happened.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
