Lately one of the common factors I hear about with some affairs are hospital and health crises. It’s when your attention is distracted by the hospital or health crisis that the cheater makes their move.
It could even be your health crisis that’s distracting you. You’re so caught up with health issues, you can’t keep your eye on the cheater.
These are particularly painful situations. While your caring for someone else, the cheater takes care of themselves. I’ve seen this with a dutiful child caring for their elderly parent or sibling.
While they are investing time and energy into their loved one, the cheater feels neglected. The cheater finds other ways of meeting their needs outside of marriage.
I’ve also seen where the betrayed spouse is ill and the cheater finds comfort in the arms of another. Rather than comfort their ailing spouse, they comfort themselves.
During those times, you have limited physical and emotional availability. There are times you’re no there even when you’re there.
Caring for others drains you of your emotional availability. It’s during those times you need your spouse more than ever. At those times you need the reassurance that all is well at home.
They now you need reassurances at those times. They may even assure you that they are there 100% and make other promises of their commitment during the time others need you.
When health crisis affairs hit, they’re particularly damaging. This is due to you being in a vulnerable place when you discover them. They exploit your weaknesses.
You were drained and this just sucks more life out of you. Like some barbarian sucking the marrow out of the bone, you feel they just took away any sign of life out of you.
Affairs never happen at a good time. This is certainly true of health crisis affairs. The timing of these affairs sucks.
They happen at a time when you can’t compete or doing anything to stop them. This leaves you feeling particularly vulnerable.
Although you may not feel strong, your marriage can recover from health care crisis affairs. Recovery requires effort and making changes.
The longer you put off making changes, the longer recovery will take. You already have enough challenges in front of you without babying the cheater.
This is where the Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. In the downloadable workshop, you can discover what to change without having to go to the counselor’s office.
When you can work on your marriage at your convenience rather than someone else’s schedule, it frees you up to focus when your focus is available.
Click and download the workshop today. By giving you direction, it keeps you from wandering around in circles wondering what to do.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
