A couple of months ago, there was a massive winter storm that came through Texas. The storm brought record new low temperatures for where I live. Here, the temperature fell to 4 degrees Fahrenheit. The previous record low was 7 degrees.
During that time, there were power and water problems in many places in addition to the extreme cold and hazardous driving conditions. The situation forced my family and I to change our plans for that week.
On reflecting back on the experience, the storm forced me to appreciate many things that I often take for granted. Things like having electricity and running water really make a difference.
Being able to take a warm shower made me feel like a new person. I gained a new appreciation for basic things.
It’s during times of crisis, you re-evaluate what’s important, and rediscover things. You gain a new appreciation for the basics, and their importance.
When the crisis is an affair, there’s a time you feel that your life is falling apart. When you start trying to put your life back together, you regain an appreciation for some of the basics.
Things like being able to sleep, eating without indigestion, going a day without headaches and taking a walk out in nature become more important than they were.
Returning to those basics is part of the affair healing process. They don’t bring your spouse back, but they do help you start getting your life back.
There’s a lesson in returning to the basics. That lesson is… you’ve got to start taking care of yourself.
If you’ve been assuming that your spouse will want to return to you based on the magic idea that if you hurt bad enough, they’ll return, you’re in for disappointment. They need something to come back to.
When you’re a wreck who isn’t taking care of yourself, you’re not giving them much to want to come back to.
People typically don’t return to wrecks except for removing any valuables they may have left behind.
When they have a loving spouse who takes care of themselves, that’s another story. When you return to the basics, you give them a reason to return.
Starting to care for yourself requires effort. It also takes knowing where to start and what to focus on. In my video “Getting Past the Affair Crisis” I go into those areas and more.
The video guides you in knowing where to start, even when you don’t feel up to it. Making it through this crisis requires some effort on your part.
Change doesn’t happen without effort. Repairing your marriage won’t happen by magic. Wishing and visualizing change won’t make it happen.
When you want things to be different, you have to start doing things different. Changes start happening when you start doing things.
You can know where to start this change from the video. Click and download your copy today.
If you need more intensive or personal help, contact me via email for a one-on-one consultation or counseling at Jeff@RestoreTheFamily.com
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
