There are times you may wonder why you hurt worse over the holidays. Since the holidays have associations with family, there are expectations that the family and marriage be intact during this time. You not only have expectations, the holidays also bring vulnerability. You may find yourself letting your guard down over the holidays. By letting your guard down, you are more vulnerable. You can be hurt easier than before. You can also be reached and touched in the event that the cheater seeks reconciliation. I am not advising you to put your walls up over the holidays. My point in mentioning this is to point out that you are vulnerable and sensitive. It is important to keep that in mind. Your emotions may distort things either in a negative manner or a positive manner over the holidays. Knowing that you are vulnerable to that ’emotional distortion’ can help you keep things in perspective. It is when you allow this distortion to get out of hand that it can amplify the good times and make any pain hurt worse than it would otherwise.
The emotions that you are experiencing were never intended to make life a living hell. On the contrary, they were meant to allow you to enjoy things more. It is when you misapply that emotional distortion to negative emotions that things get out of hand. For this reason, you will want to focus on positive things over the holidays. You will want to look for the good, hope for the best and think the best.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
