Have you had one of those moments where you say “Nooo This is not happening again!” At that moment, you suddenly have your feet and emotions in multiple worlds.
In that instant, episodes from your past and the present situation become one. Instead of living in the present moment, your body and mind relive a past traumatic moment.
You can say you don’t believe in time travel, but at that moment, your mind and emotions returned to a time you thought was behind you. Although it originally happened months or years ago, try telling that to your body and emotions.
That’s when you realize that it doesn’t matter what you actually say to your body, because it is already convinced that this moment is happening right now.
At that point you are stuck in a loop where you continue re-experiencing the pain, fears and anxieties that you endured the first time. Those old sensations come back fresh. You relive what you assumed was past.
The very fact that you expressed reluctance to go through the experience should alert you to what’s actually going on. You are reliving a traumatic event. Something about what happened in the present triggered reactions from the previous episode.
It could have been something as simple as your spouse running late, a look they gave you, a smell or the way they did something. Your mind recognized it and reacted. It took you back.
The problem is that this isn’t some summer re-run or a paper towel commercial. This is your life and you are spending it reliving the most painful moments.
Although you feel helpless, there are things you can do that help get you out of this painful cycle. There are ways of putting what happened behind you.
The first step is understanding why this keeps happening. What are the triggers? Is it a particular event or person that sets you off? Knowing what causes the reaction can help you proactively avoid similar situations in the future.
Second, seek professional help to work through and process these events. In the video, Overcoming Affair Trauma, I share with you ways of doing just that. Whether it was the trauma of the affair or other traumas in your life, when you understand what’s happening to you along with ways of stopping the patterns, you can change things.
Just click and download and you can step out of the loop that has help you captive. You can break free.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
