There are times I read something that makes me stop and take notice. Although many news items and articles these days are pulp, there are some writers who’ve definitely put some thought into what they are writing.
One of these is Camille Paglia. Although I don’t always agree with her, she makes statements I can’t ignore. She is definitely someone who puts thought into what she writes.
A quote I came across recently was “We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “I’m this way because my father made me this way. I’m this way because my husband made me this way.” Yes, we are indeed formed by traumas that happen to us. But then you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible.”
I like her approach to trauma and dealing with it. Traumas, like adultery, leave scars on your soul. Those scars aren’t pretty and they remind you of the pain you endured.
After you acknowledge the scar, you face choices about what you’re going to do about it. What you do with the scar left by the trauma is an important consideration. You can choose to be a victim, and wallow in the injustice of it all. Or you can choose to take responsibility for your life and move forward.
Camille Paglia isn’t afraid to challenge conventional wisdom when it comes to trauma and issues like adultery. She reminds us that although we all face traumas, we have the power to overcome them and make our lives better.
The scar is evidence of a wound that has healed. That means the person who caused it was strong enough to break you and now they’re completely out of your life, or at least on their way there. Give yourself credit for healing from something difficult; don’t shy away from acknowledging it because you want to keep pretending everything’s fine.
You may not have had any say in how the trauma happened, but you do have say so in dealing with the scars left behind by it. How will you respond to Camille Paglia’s telling you that ‘you must take charge, you must take over, you are responsible?’
Are you willing to take charge and start that part of your own healing? When ignored, those scars keep you stuck in victimhood. Rather than staying frozen in time chosen by the trauma, you can instead, move past it.
When you take charge and start dealing with the effects of the trauma, you start healing, those scars, including the ones that aren’t seen on the outside.
You have the power to take charge of your life, and break free from victimhood. Start by acknowledging that you’re a resilient person; someone who can recover or bounce back from hardship. The scars may be there, but they don’t define you any longer.”
In the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma”, I share with you ways of getting unstuck and moving past the trauma and regaining a life.
You don’t have to continue being a victim. You can move past whatever happened to you. You no longer have to be a victim and be defined by your traumas.
How will you respond to Camille Paglia’s challenge? One thing you can do is click and download the video. In minutes you can be doing something to change yourself.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
“In my experience, that’s what it takes: you and now they’re completely out of your life, or at least on their way there. Give yourself credit for healing from something difficult; don’t shy away from acknowledging it because you want to keep pretending everything’s fine.” – Camille Paglia
