Category: Recovery and Self-Care
Starting over again
Starting over again poses challenges. In starting over again it’s important that you have a new foundation for your marriage. A solid foundation gives you grounding. It also provides
Signs of an unhealthy marriage
Have you ever noticed that it’s easier to see unhealthy behavior in other people’s marriages than it is to see it in yours? Relationship blind spots make seeing unhealthy
Hiding evidence of the Affair
Today I found myself wanting to wad up and throw away some of my emails like I used to do to old school papers. There’s something about destroying the
The delay problem
In the back of my mind, I ponder many of the mysteries about infidelity that I still don’t have the answers to. One of these is the mysterious pattern
Two Uncomfortable truths about Affairs
Uncomfortable truths are hard to hear. Even though they’re true, it doesn’t make them easier to accept. One of those hard truths about affairs is that except for close
Winning the Affair arguments
If you ever pick up one of my books in my library, they’re filled with notes and underlined passages. Over the years, I’ve developed a system of stars, exclamation
“When does trust die?”
It amazes me how many couples give up on the first or second ‘no’ response they receive from the cheater. Giving up that quickly sets off alarm bells in
Still feeling lousy after forgiving
Are you still feeling lousy after forgiving? If so, there’s a reason. You haven’t forgiven yourself. That’s why you don’t feel it at all. You see, forgiveness is not
Protecting your spouse from threats
One of the field trips my sons thoroughly enjoyed was when we visited an armor collection. The collection was from Styria and was on tour. We saw lots of
Can my marriage survive a long-term affair?
One of the effects of an affair is that it leaves you questioning your marriage relationship. It leaves you unsure of where you stand and where the two of
