Starting over again poses challenges. In starting over again it’s important that you have a new foundation for your marriage. A solid foundation gives you grounding. It also provides common ground that the two of you start from. When you have a solid base, you can build for the future.
If you make the mistake of attempting a start-over without changing the foundation of your marriage, you may find yourself facing the same relationship issues in another form in a few short years.
The problem is that the first foundation failed you. It didn’t provide a solid base for your marriage. Rebuilding atop a faulty foundation creates an unsound situation.
No builder worth their salt would knowingly build on a faulty foundation. This is true for buildings and for building your marriage. The solidness of your foundation limits how much you can build and expand.
The more solid your foundation, the greater your growth potential. Is your foundation based on the ideas of the latest social influencer or pop culture therapist? Is it based on proven and tested ideas?
Putting down a new foundation doesn’t have to be complicated. Part of that new foundation includes recognizing that the old foundation of ‘just trust me’ no longer works.
You already tried ‘just trusting them’ without verifying or holding them accountable. At this point, both you and the cheater need accountability.
In the video, “How Can I Trust You Again?” I go over how you can lay down a new foundation for your marriage relationship. I also share with you the specific ingredients needed in that new foundation.
Many of these steps can be done with the two of you.
That’s important when starting over because it allows both of you to start from a common foundation of understanding, trust, and respect. It also gives you both something tangible to measure your combined progress.
It could be that the faulty foundation goes back to trusting romantic notions rather than proven solutions. In starting over, you need something solid. You realize that marriages don’t work well just based on good intentions and dreams.
In the video, you’ll learn what provides a solid foundation for your marriage.
Click and download the video now. You can know how what to include and how to build on it.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
