I read an article this morning on the reactions of many of the cheaters to the recent Ashley Madison hack. Although I typically take anything I read in the Huffington Post with a grain of salt, this article caught my attention. One was for the topic, second was that the responses of the cheaters intrigued me. You may find it worth your time to consider the story and what the comments of the cheaters say about their mindset. If you ever wanted to see the mind of a cheater at work, take a peek.
One of them said “We are the victims!” I thought to myself, ‘my, when the shoe is on the other foot, it doesn’t feel so good, does it?” Not only did the person assume the ‘victim’ mentality, they also wanted to mount a class action law suit against the company. I just shook my head, thinking ‘what a typical response…assume the position of victim, then threaten a law suit as a way to deal with the problem’. When cheaters play the victimhood card on you, it is not a good sign.
I wonder if that cheater ever considered how the spouse who they promised to love and cherish above all others feels? I wonder if their spouse (who is the real victim) feels about this. That may even be you. What about the other cheaters they had dealings with? They were likely victims of deceit and lies, but I guess that does not matter. The 37.5 Million spouses are ignored in this matter. Think about that for a moment. 37,500,000 cheaters. That amounts to the WHOLE population of Canada plus the whole populations of Houston and Chicago thrown in just for good measure. That is a BIG number. That shows how BIG cheating is and also how many victims of cheating there are.
I found myself furious the more I thought about how the arrogance of the cheater who views themselves as a ‘victim’. They have been living a lie, and hiding behind secrets, but that does not matter. Now that the issue touches them, they scream. I found some consolation in Franklin Graham’s response to the matter. He stated, “there is no need for them to run and hide since God already knows about their sins”. I guess the ‘victim’ did not get the message and now wants to make a big deal about someone exposing their improper behavior. The cheater does not see the bad in their acts, They see the bad as the exposure of their improper acts.
This is definitely immature and childish morality on parade. This cheater operates on a morality of “if no one sees what I have done, I have done no wrong”. I feel sorry for their spouse. This would not be an easy person to deal with. If you do not catch them ‘in the act’, they are likely not to confess to anything. The attitude of “If you didn’t see it, it didn’t happen” makes any kind of adult discussion of their affair a frustrating experience. When you hear that kind of thinking, you are dealing with childhood morality, you are not dealing with someone who can talk to you and problem solve in an adult to adult manner.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
