After the posting on ‘homewreckers’ yesterday, I have done more thinking on the topic. I considered who is the homewrecker? The term is often used to objectify the paramour, yet the paramour can not wreck a home by themselves. In order to wreck the home, each of the parties play a part. It is just easier to put all the blame on one person and give them the “homewrecker” label.
I do not like using the term “homewrecker” since it only serves to put blame on a person and does little to solve the issues underlying the affair. The decision to destroy the home was often made before the person called the homewrecker entered the picture. Instead of homewrecker, I prefer to use the term ‘paramour’. Each of the spouses and the paramour are locked into extreme game playing. They re-enact the drama triangle on a regular basis rather than take steps to resolve the issues and remove themselves from the situation.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
