In going through the blogs and sites concerning infidelity, I always obtain an education. Today, I was struck by a question posed by Lanie Peterson at her site. Her question was, “Does Jesus Love Homewreckers?” My answer to that is a resounding yes. The Bible has the examples of King David, King Saul, and Rahab. Each of these persons were responsible for breaking up marriages in one way or another. Despite the actions taken by each of them, the adultery and cheating were not the thing that did them in. Rahab totally changed her ways. David ended up involved in a murder plot after his adultery, and Saul ended up alienating his family and David’s with his home wrecking by forcing his daughter , the wife of David to wed another man.
Each of their lives was filled with painful choices, but the homewrecking was not the end of any of their lives.
My experience is that sometimes the homewrecker was lied to about the marital status. That is not always true, but I have seen some cases. By the time they wake up to what is going on, they are in too deep. The pain of ending any relationship is painful. One of the main problems with affairs is that there is no graceful way to end them. I see the real challenge for the home wrecker being that once they know what is actually going on, how do they handle it? How they handle it often determines whether they will find themselves plagued with guilt and shame or not.
A travesty that often goes hand-in-hand with affairs is that people get objectified. They are treated as objects, whether objects for sexual gratification or for punishment purposes. Either type of objectification is wrong. When we objectify people, we loose some of our own humanity in the process.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
